This would not be a complete tome of self-help if I did not add a section called REST. Yes, there has to be a time when you stop looking after yourself, when you stop growing, when you stop being self-actualized. There has to be a time when you just Rest.

Stop right there. You can Rest anywhere. You can Rest anytime. But like all these teachings it is best if you make a ritual of it. I suggest that you plan your Rest. If you don’t, if you just take Rest at any time, it can feel like you are slagging off, that you are missing out, that you are failing, that you are avoiding. Planned Rest, on the other hand, feels like a treat.

It’s time for a Duvet Day, or as it is now called – a Nest Day. Stay in bed. And Rest. Don’t sleep. That doesn’t count. It is a waking activity. It includes some of your favourite treats; Coffee, maybe breakfast in bed. Cross words. A romantic, chic lit, novel. ‘A Box of Liquorice All Sorts.’ Or maybe if you rest in the evening – it will include a tub of Ben and Jerry’s (one tub, one spoon, one sitting) or maybe time spent with your tablet, just aimlessly scrolling. Each of us will have a different idea of resting.

Then there is resting outside of bed; Resting on the couch. I’m a big fan of white gym socks, grey sweat pants and an oversized t-shirt. Yes, Resting has a uniform. Something you wouldn’t wear out in public. Something preserved for the sacred ground of Resting. Above is my uniform if I am cuddling up with a good movie. Or a Net-flix boxset I’ve been meaning to watch. There is nothing like a binge of watching. That’s ‘Resting’ on speed.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say – Resting must be earned. You must have something you are resting from. In other words, Resting can’t be your default mode. You can’t Rest all the time. Resting must be special time. When an actor is out of work they don’t say they are unemployed. They say they are Resting. You have to have something you are resting from. This is why weekends are, of course, the best time for Resting. After a long hard week, it is time to put up your feet.

Resting is when you can do whatever you want. And it can take as long as you want. I usually rest for about an hour – after that the specialness wears off and I just get bored.

After resting it is important that you change your clothes. Or as your mother used to say, “It’s time to get dressed.”

So get dressed and you should have a feeling of back to reality. You should have a feeling like you are ready to face the world. Resting should make you feel replenished. And most importantly, Resting must be something you look forward to.

Have a great day. In Recovery, Me.

About the Author – Kate Hull Rodgers is an expert by experience. She has been mentally ill since 1986, more than 30 years. She is diagnosed as bi polar and GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) Every day she battles to be in recovery, many days she wins. She speaks in corporate workplaces with her company She has spoken in 29 countries. Also she runs Stepping Stone Theatre for Mental Health with her husband, Bill- and she is still happily married. Mustn’t forget, she is the proud mother of Harvey and Dominic – and the dog, Zebbie.